Healing Through Play

A subdued little boy of eight was referred to me because of his struggles at home and at school where he was unable to order his thoughts.  When he tried to express himself, his speech was muddled and incoherent.   His actions were clumsy and he often tripped and banged into things.   One day, when given a choice of play materials, he chose to turn the playroom into an obstacle course, using wooden boxes, chairs, tunnels and small tables.  He asked if I would let him blindfold me so that he could lead me through his creation.

I agreed because it felt important for his confidence that he was in charge and that I was dependent on his instructions and physical prompts for my safety.  He then proceeded to tell me when to crouch down, when to lift my foot, when to crawl under a table or slide through a tunnel etc.  He had invented the game and took full responsibility for his role and was totally focused on my safety in our joint venture.

I attached a very long piece of yellow ribbon to my waist and as I moved, I left a yellow trail behind me.  When we had completed the course, I emerged unscathed and we looked back to see the length of ribbon that had marked my steps, a symbol of hope and a mirror of the relinking of the little boy’s own impaired neural pathways.  His instructions were clear and confident throughout because he was thinking more about me than his own difficulty in communication and this activity proved a turning point for us both in many ways.  Through this game of trust we had connected in a unique way and we both had learnt from the experience.

On his subsequent visits to the playroom, we played this game over and over again , taking turns to lead each other over and under and sometimes through the obstacles blocking our path.  Gradually this little boy’s confidence improved and with this improvement, his speech became clearer.  This confirmed my belief that  children know how to heal themselves , we just have to hone our observation skills, listen and watch for the clues    Shining a torch on a difficulty will often exacerbate the problem and demolish the child’s  confidence.  When children are allowed to choose their own play activity and are given a lead role , they are  likely to tap into their own unique self-healing mechanism.

If you would like to deepen your understanding of this way of playing with children ,  please check out my manuals Sensory Rainbow and Happy Talk, where I have provided some guidelines to encourage you to follow your  intuition when playing creatively with the children you are lucky enough to meet.